Just Good Shit: 07.26.20

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hello! Here’s what I was doing this week when I wasn’t listening to ā€œbettyā€ and ā€œexileā€ on repeat.

Writing

I published A Beginner's Guide for 'Straight' Women Who Want to Act on Queer Feelings, which I started working on back in January (and then paused because of the pandemic), and am very excited to have out in the world!

My shit, elsewhere

I was on two podcasts this week: The Struggle Bus, talking to my friend Sally about reality TV, weddings, and boundaries, and Girl Gaze, talking about my career path.

Reading

There Is So Much More Than the Nuclear Family, Even Now, The Atlantic.

Getting Done Up When You’re Coming Undone, Ssense.

ā€œThis is a thread of fun times I had while enforcing the new company policy of required masks at the grocery store I work at.ā€

In 2000, ā€˜Cribs’ became a phenomenon. 20 years later, we’re all living in an accidental reboot., Washington Post.

God, I Miss Eavesdropping, The Cut.

Does Dunkin’ Donuts Really Keep Ben Affleck’s Coffee Order on File?, Vulture.

Another Dull Quarantine Weekend at Home, Target, Chipotle, Home Depot, and Our Niece’s Graduation Party, McSweeney’s.

Eating

These meatballs, which were great. And this year’s batch of my beloved McLeod Farm's peaches, which are as special as ever. (I think Chuck agrees.)

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Just Good Shit: 07.19.20

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Just Good Shit: 07.05.20

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hi! Here’s what I had going on this week…

Writing

Reading

Just Because You Can Doesn’t Mean You Should, The Atlantic.

When You Are Paid 13 Hours for a 24-Hour Shift, The New York Times.

Why the term ā€œBIPOCā€ is so complicated, explained by linguists, Vox.

How Mount Rushmore Became Mount Rushmore, The New York Times.

On Instagram, Ban.do Looked Like A Millennial Woman’s Paradise. In Reality, Employees Say They Were Miserable., BuzzFeed News.

Cult Classic ā€œBut I’m A Cheerleaderā€ Championed Femme Lesbianism, BuzzFeed News.

Reading Anti-Racist Nonfiction Is a Start. But Don’t Underestimate the Power of Black Fiction, Time.

Why Cubbyhole Is the One New York Bar I Always Return To, CondƩ Nast Traveler.

Other shit

Yesterday, my girlfriend and I had a lovely at-home ā€œbeachā€ day. We wore our bathing suits and other beach clothes; lay on towels; read 28 Summers (not my fave Elin book, but still a very beachy beach read); made painkillers and grilled burgers; and listened to ocean waves (surprisingly effective) from one phone and Carly Rae Jepsen bops from the other. It was really mellow and dreamy, and I highly recommend something like this to anyone who needs something to look forward to/is a bit bored/misses summer fun.

Have a good Sunday night! šŸ‘™

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Just Good Shit: 06.28.20

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hello and happy Pride! If you’re looking for some good gay shit (which: who isn’t???), consider this reading list. Otherwise, here’s some other stuff from my week…

Writing

I also edited a few things: The Queer Haircuts of Quarantine; How Tumblr's 'Am I a Lesbian?' Google Doc Became Internet Canon; and How to Make More LGBTQ Friends. And my friend Gyan interviewed me for a Man Repeller article.

Reading

You Want a Confederate Monument? My Body Is a Confederate Monument, The New York Times.

My Family Saw a Police Car Hit a Kid on Halloween. Then I Learned How NYPD Impunity Works., ProPublica.

Want to wax eyebrows in Pennsylvania? You have to be a good person. This 'oppressive' law says so., NBC News.
This is outrageous.

How the Virus Won, The New York Times.

North Texas family shaken after 18 relatives test positive for COVID-19 following surprise birthday party, WFAA.

A Love Letter to My Mailman, and the Incomparable Camaraderie Between Black Strangers, Man Repeller.

Eating

This week, we had slow-roast gochujang chicken for the second time — it’s really good. And this slow cooker chipotle-honey chicken is amazing and so easy; I think it’s going to become a lunch staple.

Have a good Sunday! šŸ³ļøā€šŸŒˆ

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Just Good Shit: 06.21.20

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hello! Here’s what I had going on this week…

My shit, elsewhere

I had a great conversation with Brittany Luse about The Art of Showing Up on Friday night via Politics and Prose and Girls’ Night In; if you’re interested, you can watch the whole event here. I also talked to Amy Robach for an ABC News segment on Thursday.

Also, I’ll be dropping by the Balanced Black Girl virtual book club on Monday, June 29; you can RSVP here.

Reading

Finding Black Joy in Times of Crisis, The Root.

The Nutcracker Hustle: Why Selling Bootleg Cocktails Just Got Harder, The New York Times.

New Yorkers Flattened the Curve. Now They’re Dropping Their Guard., The New York Times.

Dear Fuck-Up: My Close Friend Is Being Radicalized On the Internet and I Don’t Know What to Do, Jezebel.
This is so good.

Watching

I regret to inform you that I binged all but two episodes of Selling Sunset on Netflix this weekend. It’s SO bad and yet it’s…all I can think about?

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Just Good Shit: 06.14.20

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Just Good Shit: 05.31.20

Illustration by Ashley Lukashevsky

Illustration by Ashley Lukashevsky

Hi. I’m tired and sad and angry. Just…tapped out. Here’s what I have for you this week.

Writing

From the archives: The best writing on race, white supremacy, and anti-Black racism in America and Here's How To Raise Race-Conscious Children (I edited this one).

My shit, elsewhere

I talked to Alison Stewart about showing up for friends right now on WNYC’s All Of It on Tuesday. And I was interviewed by Bitch magazine; you can read it here: There Is an Art to Showing up—and Rachel Wilkerson Miller Has Mastered It.

Reading

This Is What You Get, Jezebel.

Millions of Amy Coopers, The Cut.

First Came The Pandemic, Then Came the Raw Sewage, The Marshall Project.

Fearing for his life, The Verge.

How Many Black People Can You Mourn In One Week?, BuzzFeed.

How to respond to ā€œriots never solve anything!ā€, So Let’s Talk About.

Save the Tears: White Woman's Guide, Tatiana Mac.

Your Black Colleagues May Look Like They’re Okay — Chances Are They’re Not, Refinery29.

Maintaining Professionalism In The Age of Black Death Is….A Lot, Shenequa Golding on Medium.

And a thread of bail funds across the country.

Watching

This excellent video from Danielle Henderson, and this one by Danielle Prescod, both of which I feel like summed up what I’m thinking and experiencing. Also: this joyful hometown parade for Friday night’s Drag Race winner. And Centerpiece on Quibi — the exact kind of Black exuberance and beauty that I needed this morning.

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Just Good Shit: 05.24.20

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Today’s New York Times lists the names of 1,000 people who have died from COVID-19 in the United States — a small fraction of the 100,000 known deaths in the U.S. as of now. I don’t know how anyone can look at these people’s names and the tiny snippets of their lives — ā€œfounded a food pantryā€ ā€œknown as ā€˜the fashionista’ in her nursing homeā€ ā€œthought it was important to know a person’s life storyā€ ā€œBroadway costume designerā€ ā€œworked mostly factory jobs to support his familyā€ ā€œan exuberant laughā€ — and think that the threats of coronavirus are exaggerated, or believe that the country is ready to ā€œreopen,ā€ or say that these 100,000+ lives didn’t matter. Of course they mattered. They were people. They they had families and friends and nicknames and talents and inside jokes and memories and now they are gone.

It’s all so sad, so shameful, and I feel so angry reading this less than hour after watching a group of four semi-masked people get out of a car and walk, giggling, up to a neighbor’s door while carrying three bulging Whole Foods bags, a large bowl covered in plastic wrap, and a big box labeled ā€œAngus beef pattiesā€ that took two hands to carry. It’s utterly astonishing to me that so many people have died — and are still dying!!! — and so many of other people simply….decided the rules must be different now, because they are just…tired of living like this??? Like, we’re all tired of living like this. The answer is still no.

Here’s what else I had going on this week…

Writing

My shit, elsewhere

I had a really nice conversation with Shereen Marisol Meraji for NPR’s Life Kit, which aired in two parts this week: An Illustrated Guide To Showing Up For Yourself and What To Say When A Friend Is Struggling. I also participated in a Reddit AMA with some other recent Life Kit guests.

And I’m really excited that Girls’ Night In selected The Art of Showing Up as their June book club read! I’ll be doing a virtual event with GNI and Politics & Prose on June 19; you can RSVP here.

Reading

How to Have a Safer Pandemic Memorial Day, The New York Times.
I’m sharing this not because I think you should gather for Memorial Day (or…for any other reason right now), but because I think it’s helpful to see how high the burden of lowering the risk when gathering is.

ā€˜I Really Need to Go Home’: The Cruise Ship Employees Still Stuck at Sea, VICE.

11 Tips for Getting the Most Out of Therapy Right Now, SELF.

Stewed Awakening, Eater.

Cooking Your Way Through the Pandemic, The Atlantic.

The best $19.98 I ever spent: A seatbelt extender, The Goods / Vox.

Lana Del Rey Could Have Left This One in the Drafts, Jezebel.

I'm running out of patience when we need patience the most, Ask a Manager.

How to Have a Fun Conversation Again, The New York Times.
Loved this.

Cooking

My windowsill scallions grew very tall very quickly! Thrilling. I used them to make a half portion of this scallion butter, which we put on top of the cornbread we had with taco soup. Now I’m currently midway through the process of making this homemade pizza, which is coming along nicely. And I can’t remember if I shared the NYT Cooking Cheesy White Bean-Tomato Bake when I first made it, but it’s great — low-fuss and delicious, a great lunch recipe for lovers of chickpea pasta.

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