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The best things I read in 2021

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Happy New Yearā€™s Eve! If youā€™re planning a cozy night in ā€” which I personally highly recommend ā€” might I suggest reading (or re-reading) some really fantastic longreads from the past year?

Here are all of my faves from 2021, in no particular order:

The Only Strategy Left for Democrats, The Cut.
ā€œGovern like you won, winners.ā€ I think about this lineā€¦all the time.

The Road to Terfdom, Lux.

Airbnb Is Spending Millions of Dollars to Make Nightmares Go Away, Bloomberg.

The Pain Was Unbearable. So Why Did Doctors Turn Her Away?, Wired.

The Murders Down the Hall, NY Mag.

As a Black Man in America, I Feel Death Looming Every Day, NYT.

Britney Spears Was Never in Control, The Cut.

Lab-grown meat is supposed to be inevitable. The science tells a different story., The Counter.

On the Internet, Weā€™re Always Famous, The New Yorker.

I Canceled My Birthday Party Because of Omicron, The Atlantic.

How Coffin Flopā€™s Coffins Got Flopped, Vulture.

It Is Unconscionable That The Gay Community Has Ostracized Me Simply Because I Was Born A Cop, Defector.

And the thing Iā€™m personally most proud of from 2021: Shantay, You Pay: Inside the Heavy Financial Burden of Going On ā€˜Drag Raceā€™. šŸŽ†

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The best things I published in 2020

The best things I read in 2020

Photo of phone by Mel Poole on Unsplash

Photo of phone by Mel Poole on Unsplash

In my mind, I read very little this year besides news articles, tweets, and Notes app apologies from canceled girl bosses. But when I checked my ā€œbest of 2020ā€ tag in Pocket over the weekend, I was surprised/happy to discover that I actually read quite a bit of good shit on the internet this year! So here, in no particular order, are my 2020 favorites:

This Is Not the Apocalypse You Were Looking For, Wired.

Do DC Renters Who Are Evicted Know About Their Court Dates?, DCist.

ā€˜I apologize to God for feeling this way.ā€™, Washington Post.

The Soft Butch That Couldnā€™t (Or: I Got COVID-19 in March and Never Got Better), Autostraddle.

Coronavirus, Charity, and the Trolley Problem, Crooked Media.

The N95 shortage America canā€™t seem to fix, Washington Post.

A Failure, But Not Of Prediction, Slate Star Codex.

What Did Emile Weaver Know?, ELLE.
Content note: this is a pretty harrowing article about the death of a newborn.

Tear Gas Doesnā€™t Deploy Itself, The New Republic.

You Want a Confederate Monument? My Body Is a Confederate Monument, The New York Times.

My Mustache, My Self, NYT Magazine.

The Consequences of Your Actions, Design Mom.

The Darkness Where the Future Should Be, The New York Times.

How hard will the robots make us work?, The Verge.

Eating for Two, The Cut.

Learning to Swim Taught Me More Than I Bargained For, NYT Magazine.

Applying for Unemployment Is My New Full-Time Job, The Cut.

How Salon Shutdowns Are Disrupting Black Women's Haircare, Jezebel.

Dear Fuck-Up: My Close Friend Is Being Radicalized On the Internet and I Donā€™t Know What to Do, Jezebel.

Apparently, Iā€™m Too Fat to Ski, The Cut.

The very real, totally bizarre bucatini shortage of 2020, Grub Street. āœØ

Also: The best things I published in 2020.

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The best things I read and wrote in 2019

Image: Sincerely Media / Unsplash

Image: Sincerely Media / Unsplash

Happy New Yearā€™s Eve! As we head into 2020, here are some of my favorite things from 2019ā€¦

Writing

The best $16 I ever spent: Old Navy pajamas after my husband left, Vox.

How to Say No During Wedding Season, The New York Times.

The Art of Saying No to Invites When You Really Don't Want to Do Something, SELF.

Not Great, Bob! The Case for Actually Being Honest When People Ask How You Are, SELF.

19 Practical Ways To Get Through Your Bad Season, BuzzFeed.

Reading

This year, I read 30 not-for-work books. The best book was Know My Name by Chanel Miller. Other books I loved/recommend: Bad Blood, Educated, Destiny of the Republic, Red, White, & Royal Blue, In the Dream House, and Nothing to See Here.

Also:

The Trauma Floor ā€” The secret lives of Facebook moderators in America, The Verge.

A 4-Year-Old Trapped in a Teenagerā€™s Body, The Cut.

The Night The Lights Went Out, Deadspin.

The Crane Wife, The Paris Review.

The ā€œCancel Cultureā€ Con, The New Republic.

Fifty shades of white: the long fight against racism in romance novels, The Guardian.

'These kids are ticking time bombs': The threat of youth basketball, ESPN.

Suzy Batizā€™s Empire of Odor, The New Yorker.

I Accidentally Uncovered a Nationwide Scam on Airbnb, VICE.

Athleisure, barre and kale: the tyranny of the ideal woman, The Guardian.

ā€˜For five years we dreaded every mealā€™: my infant sonā€™s struggle with food, The Guardian.

My Cousin Was My Hero. Until the Day He Tried to Kill Me., The New York Times.

The Catastrophist, or: On coming out as trans at 37, Vox.

The Pink, n+1.

Dear Internet: The Little Mermaid Also Happens to Be Queer Allegory, LitHub.

The End of Straight, GQ.

No distractions: An NFL veteran opens up on his sexuality, ESPN.

Psycho Analysis, Bookforum.

What Itā€™s Like to Grow Up With More Money Than Youā€™ll Ever Spend, The Cut.

Cal Newport on Why We'll Look Back at Our Smartphones Like Cigarettes, GQ.

How ā€œsoccer girlā€ became the indisputably coolest look, Vox.

We Have Always Lived In Presidential Primary Season: A Half-Assed Activist Post About Getting Through This Shitshow Without Perpetuating Or Tolerating Bad Behavior And Keeping Some Tiny Spark Of Hope Alive, Captain Awkward.

How to Date After a Divorce, Lifehacker.

America Has Never Been So Desperate for Tomato Season, The Atlantic.

Happy reading! āœØ

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Just a bunch of good things to read if you want to be a better manager

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

I recognize that my current job status ā€” just partly employed ā€” might mean this isnā€™t the ideal time to publish this post. But! Before I got laid off, I had been managing for three years, and in 2017 and 2018, my teams grew significantly and I began managing managers. I really liked managing and cared a lot about doing it well, so I was often looking for thoughtful, practical advice about being a good manager.

So even though Iā€™m not currently a manager, I thought Iā€™d share some of my favorite resources! (BTW, most of these are helpful for everyone with a job, even if youā€™re not a manager and/or have no desire to become one!)

Ask a Manager

Ask a Manager, written by Alison Green, is my go-to for all things work-related. If you arenā€™t familiar with Ask a Manager and want a funny and entertaining intro to the blog, here are a few posts I wrote while at BuzzFeed to get you started:

Those posts are on the wackier side, but I have truly learned so much from reading the more mundane AAM posts (plus the comments) every day for years. I also spent at least one Friday nights a few years ago going deep on the archives, which served as a pretty great crash course in how work works. (By the way, if youā€™re a manager, you may want to browse the being the boss tag.)

Beyond the AAM blog, I highly recommend Alisonā€™s 2018 book, Ask a Manager: How to Navigate Clueless Colleagues, Lunch-Stealing Bosses, and the Rest of Your Life at Work. After I read it, I passed it around to my team so they could read it too. Alison knows so much about how businesses and professional relationships should work, and always gives practical advice in an empathetic and straightforward way. I recommend AAM for everyone, regardless of where you are in your career.

Get it on Amazon for $10.87 or find it at a local bookstore.

Radical Candor

The first time I read this post about radical candor, it sort of blew my mind. Itā€™s not that I hadnā€™t been practicing something akin to radical candor before...but I had never thought of being direct and honest in these exact terms. Itā€™s a concept I returned to again and again as a manager. And although radical candor tends to get all the attention, I think ruinous empathy is a really, really important concept that we should all be talking about more at work. I think about this quote ā€” ā€œThe vast majority of management mistakes happen in the quadrant that I call ruinous empathyā€ ā€” a lot.

The Mind of the Leader

The Mind of the Leader: How to Lead Yourself, Your People, and Your Organization for Extraordinary Results was one of my favorite non-fiction reads in 2018. It's genuinely inspiring and I immediately wanted to buy it for all of the managers I managed. The main idea is that the best leaders have three qualities: compassion, selflessness, and mindfulness. If you want to get a better idea of what itā€™s about/the tone, check out this podcast episode/transcript: "Leading with Less Egoā€ from HBR IdeaCast.

Get it from Amazon for $16.99 or find it at a local bookstore.

Harvard Business Review

Speaking of the Harvard Business Review, I really like HBR and the HBR IdeaCast. (They also have a bunch of other podcasts, but I havenā€™t personally listened to them.) TBH, itā€™s not a site I remember to check as often as I should, but I just signed up for a couple of their newsletters to get it on my radar every week. (See all their newsletters.) Here are a few articles I liked/saved in Pocket that you might like:

Jeff Weiner: Leading with Compassion

When my friend Millie ā€” one of my best, most inspiring manager buddies ā€” recommended this episode of Oprahā€™s SuperSoul Conversations podcast to me, Iā€™ll admit that I was a bit skeptical. But! This episode turned out to be really great and is worth listening to. (If you prefer to watch instead of listen, there are also videos of the interview.)

Reorgs Happen

Finally, this one is pretty specific, but I love this Reorgs Happen deck created by Camille Fournier. My friend Rachel (a very good manager!) sent it to me a few years ago. Itā€™s funny and well-done and extremely accurate, and I wish more managers thought about reorgs (and, really, any big changes at work) this way.

Thatā€™s all Iā€™ve got! But Iā€™d love to hear about the specific resources that youā€™ve found helpful with regard to management. Since I donā€™t have comments turned on yet, feel free to email me at rachel @ justgoodshit dot com. Iā€™d love to put together a Part 2 of this post with your suggestions! āœØ

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