Just Good Shit: 09.19.21

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hi! Just a quick one from me tonight as it has been A DAY. Also, Iā€™ll be offline for the next two Sundays, so you wonā€™t hear from me for a couple of weeks. Until then, hereā€™s what Iā€™ve got for youā€¦

Reading

A Boy Went to a COVID-Swamped ER. He Waited for Hours. Then His Appendix Burst., ProPublica.

The Culture War Over ā€˜Pregnant Peopleā€™, The Atlantic.

A Brandon woman, 92, fought her guardianship. Things escalated quickly., Tampa Bay Times.

The Prescient Power of The Rosie Oā€™Donnell Show, Vulture.

What Matters in a Name Sign?, NYT. (gift link)

The one-sided John Mulaney Twitter debate, Embedded.
This is old now but I forgot to include it at the time, and I think the overall takeaway is pretty evergreen.

Finally, if youā€™ve watched LuLa Rich on Amazon (which is very good!) and are still thinking about how wild it all is, you might like this article I wrote in 2017 about LuLaRoe.

Have a good one! šŸŒ

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Just Good Shit: 09.12.21

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Just Good Shit: 09.06.21

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Image: KIyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hi, all. This was another sad week. I woke up on Thursday and learned via Twitter video (!) that our block had been fully flooded ā€” like, cars floating, scary flooding ā€” just a few hours earlier. We immediately got up and went to see what our neighborhood looked like, expecting that we might not even be able to go outside and, best case, that our car would be at least partially submerged. We got downstairs andā€¦nothing. All the water had disappeared, the car was totally dry, and there was hardly any evidence of what had happened overnight (aside from one car that had floated onto the sidewalk). It was completely surreal. We had zero warning about this storm, and now dozens of people are dead. Itā€™s really fucking sad and just so overwhelming.

Some further reading about the storm ā€” and who was most affected by it ā€” belowā€¦

Reading

Trapped in Basements and Cars, They Lost Their Lives in Savage Storm, NYT. (gift link)

Related must-read: Underground Lives: The Sunless World of Immigrants in Queens, NYT.

"No One Has Come": Queens Flood Victims Left To Fend For Themselves In Storm's Aftermath, Gothamist.

One Texas Woman Describes Her Abortion Hours Before the State's Six-Week Ban Went Into Effect, Jezebel.

Stop It With The Fucking Coat Hangers, Andrea Grimes.

This thread about abortion from @gracieminabox.

Death by a Thousand Words: COVID-19 and the Pandemic of Ableist Media, Refinery29.

Is It Allergies or a Breakthrough Infection?, The Cut.

Caring for the elderly has never been more expensive, exhausting, or invisible, Vox.

The Epic Family Feud Behind an Iconic American Weight-Loss Camp for Kids, Bloomberg.

How do I know if it's safe to be out at work ... and other questions about LGBTQ+ issues at work, Ask a Manager.

In the Kitchens of the Rich, Things Are Not as They Seem, NYT. (gift link)

Heā€™s All That is a Hallmark movie for Gen Z, Vox.

And if youā€™re looking for a way to celebrate Labor Day, consider donating to Los Deliveristas Unidos' Workers Fund.


Have a good week.

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Just Good Shit: 08.29.21

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Itā€™s been a strange few days around these parts ā€” if you havenā€™t heard, VICE did a round of layoffs on Thursday morning without any real warning. There was no all-staff morning email announcing what would be happening or anything like that; we just came online and heard through the grapevine, while many of us were still making our coffee, that our coworkers were being picked off. We had no idea how many people were being laid off or when it would be over. (It was over, apparently, when management sent out a 1,000-word email that led with congratulating several people on their promotions.)

My manager was one of the people who was let go, as were several people on a neighboring team. While I was one of the lucky ones this time, it was the third round of layoffs Iā€™ve been through in as many years; itā€™s unsettling and upsetting to watch it happen over and over again. Every single time I am aghast at how poorly this process is executed, though I donā€™t think I will be next time because Iā€™ll be used to it.

Anyway. Hereā€™s what else I had going on this weekā€¦

Writing

I published this as the layoffs were happening because it was meant to go live on Thursday, and I was worried I was going to get laid off/lose access to the CMS before I had a chance to hit publish, and I had spent a lot of time working on it and also didnā€™t want to waste my sourcesā€™ time.

Reading

Ultra-Vaxxed Israelā€™s Crisis Is a Dire Warning to America, The Daily Beast.

The Vaccine-Booster Mistake, The Atlantic.

Georgia School Official Responds to COVID Crisis With ā€˜Tone Deafā€™ Blue Jeans Proposal, The Daily Beast.
Every line of this article is somehow more outrageous than the one before it. Likeā€¦Jesus Christ.

The SAME DAMN lesson again., Nadia Bolz-Weber.

How to Work with Someone Who Creates Unnecessary Conflict, HBR.

Femme Fatale, Harperā€™s Bazaar.
ā€œThe straight women who want to be femmesā€”are they speaking out against homophobia, racism, transmisogyny, and violence against sex workers in their lives, or are they just happy to have a word that makes fashion and aesthetic choices political and less superficial?ā€

The Cotton Tote Crisis, NYT.

Knitting for Victory ā€” World War II, HistoryLink.org.


Have a good one. šŸ’›

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Just Good Shit: 08.22.21

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Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Good evening! Iā€™ve been hunkered down literally all day thanks to Henri. We put on records and I did crosswords and made beans on toast while my girlfriend knit. It felt a bit like a preview of this coming fall/winter, given how bad Delta is. But it was a really nice day (and weekend!), and I was so happy to be offline all day.

Hereā€™s what else I had going on this weekā€¦

Reading

Donā€™t Panic, But Breakthrough Cases May Be a Bigger Problem Than Youā€™ve Been Told, NY Mag.

Seven People Tell Us What It's Like to Have Breakthrough COVID, VICE.

A New Variant of COVID Denialism Has Emerged, NY Mag.

My Kidsā€™ School Wonā€™t Reinstate Masks Despite a Recent Surge in COVID Cases. Hereā€™s What I Chose to Do., ProPublica.

If Only Weā€™d Listened to Representative Barbara Lee, The Cut.

The US Carefully Documented Its Total Failure in Afghanistan for 12 Years, VICE.

Before a 4-year-old boyā€™s killing, authorities wavered on rescuing him, LA Times.

What Happens When All of Your Co-workers Quit?, The Cut.
This is so fucking bleak.

I'm a Frito-Lay Factory Worker. I Work 12-Hour Days, 7 Days a Week, VICE.

ā€œA Smile With Sharp Teethā€: Mike Richardsā€™s Rise to ā€˜Jeopardy!ā€™ Host Sparks Questions About His Past, The Ringer.

The White Lotus Was Always Going to End This Way, Vanity Fair.

The White Lotus is as clueless about Native Hawaiians as its characters, Vox.

Are You Watching the New Gossip Girl?, GoFugYourself.

Why Doesnā€™t the New Gossip Girl Feel Fun?, Vanity Fair.

RuPaulā€™s Drag Race All-Stars Recap: Float Like a Butterfly, Sting Like Silky, Vulture.
This weekā€™s episode was one of the best ever imo ā€” so joyful, and worth a watch even if you arenā€™t watching this season.

Strange Lessons in Sex and Power from ā€˜Saved By the Bellā€™, Catapult.

How a Board Game About Birds Became a Surprise Blockbuster, Slate.
Iā€™m excited to get into this game this fall/winter!

Watching

A few recent faves: This Is Paris, Malice at the Palace (SO GOOD), RHOBH, and Rajiv Surendraā€™s inCREDIBLE apartment tour. And this mesmerizing watch restoration.

Have a good one! šŸŒ§

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Just Good Shit: 08.15.21

This week, I went to the beach twice, which felt decadent! On Friday, my girlfriend and I made a spontaneous evening trip to Riis, which absolutely rocked. We saw the sunset and the moon, ate burgers and truly the best grilled cheese, and got a much-needed break from the city heat and humidity. Weā€™ve also started planning a fall trip to Acadia, which Iā€™m so so excited about. And after spending all day today on the beach Iā€™m feeling pretty mellow and happy.

Hereā€™s what else I was up to this weekā€¦

My shit

And this week on the podcast, Sally and I talked about poems and poetry!

Reading

What Bobby McIlvaine Left Behind, The Atlantic.

Families of High-Risk Children Despair Over Covid Resurgence, NYT.

How the Pandemic Now Ends, The Atlantic.

The Pain Was Unbearable. So Why Did Doctors Turn Her Away?, Wired.

The True Crime Junkies and the Curious Case of a Missing Husband, VICE.

I Took A Delta-8 Gummy Before Going On A Run. Things Got Weird ā€” Really Weird, Refinery 29.

The intern who took over an office, the dragon pajamas, and other stories to cringe over/revel in, Ask a Manager.

Have a great week! ā›±

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Just Good Shit: 08.09.21

Posing in McCarren Park holding two gold foil balloons: 6 and 9

Hello! This post is coming to you a little later than usual because I was celebrating my birthday this weekend! On Saturday (my actual bday), my girlfriend organized a very lovely and mellow park hang with friends, which was perfect. Sunday we had a lazy day at home ā€” we set up Supercouch, did a bunch of crossword puzzles, watched Gossip Girl, and ordered sushi. And today we booked a fall trip to Acadia National Park, which I am so, so excited about!

Hereā€™s what else I had going onā€¦

Reading

ā€˜It has to be known what was done to usā€™: Natick couple harassed by eBay tell their story for the first time, Boston Globe.
This is wild.

I Was Part of the July Fourth Provincetown ā€œBreakthroughā€ COVID Cluster. Itā€™s Been a Sobering Experience., Slate.
ā€œIf being at the center of this latest chapter of the COVID story had chipped away at my trust in the CDCā€™s ever-evolving guidelines, it had also offered us gay men a glimpse of an important facet of our history, exemplified most powerfully in the legendary self-advocacy of ACT UP: playing armchair scientist when institutional and social knowledge isnā€™t there for us, when it breaks down.ā€

I went to a party with 14 other vaccinated people; 11 of us got COVID, The Baltimore Sun.

The Case Against Sticking The Landing, Defector.

Ā­Ā­The Olympic Gymnastics Event Finals Are Unsatisfying and Unsafe, Slate.

Who Owns Amanda Knox?, The Atlantic.

The $5,000 quest for the perfect butt, Vox.

The Woman Who Captured ā€˜Jaws,ā€™ Then Worked to Undo the Damage, NYT. (gift link)

Goal Tending: The NBA Dropped the Ball with Two of Its New Head Coaches, Bitch.

The Best Smart Home Devices to Help Seniors Age in Place, Wirecutter.

The Parallel-Parking Job That Ignited the Internet, Curbed.

Have a good week! šŸ„³

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Just Good Shit: 08.01.21

twist ice cream cone with big googly eyes made of gum

Hello and happy August! (And happy Leo season to those who observe!) Hereā€™s what I had going on this weekā€¦

My shit

And the newest ep of Oh, I Like That is up!

Reading

This week I read Make It Nice, Dorinda Medleyā€™s upcoming memoir, and found it interesting/charming! Also:

Your Vaccinated Immune System Is Ready for Breakthroughs, The Atlantic.

If We Must Wear Masks Again, We Need a Smart Approach, NYT. (gift link)
I found this article reassuring/informative after the news about Delta last week.

Simone Biles and the Weight of Perfection, NYT. (gift link)

Simone Biles and 'the twisties': How fear affects the mental health and physical safety of gymnasts, CNN.
ā€œGymnastics is obviously physically demanding with a high injury rate. But it is extremely difficult psychologically as well. Many of the skills could kill you.ā€

Was the Olympic Skateboarding Really as Unimpressive as It Seemed?, Slate.
The framing of this article is weirdly aggressive and annoying, BUT the info from the expert is genuinely interesting and useful if you watched skateboarding and had questions!

The Cursed Trick That Almost Cost Suni Lee a Gold Medal, Slate.

My Gender is Maximalism, Autostraddle.

The worst money weā€™ve ever spent, Vox.

How Berkeley Bowl cashiers memorize literally everything in their legendary produce department, SFGate.

ā€˜Look at Me Like a Human Boy!ā€™ An Oral History of Clifford, Vulture.
I loved this movie so so much as a kid and felt like no one else had ever even heard of it, so I was absolutely delighted to see this.

Watching

Along with the Olympics, I watched Zola and loved it. I followed it up with a profile about the woman behind the Twitter thread and a profile of the director (gift link).

Have a good week! šŸŒ»

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Just Good Shit: 07.25.21

peach and blueberry fruit crisp in a pie dish, sitting on top of a yellow cutting board, with a wooden spoon with a smiley face carved into it sitting on top

Hi! This week I made an incredible fruit crisp, got to see Sally in person for the first time since 2019, did my best to watch the Olympics (despite NBCā€™s seeming disinterest in me actually finding the stuff I want to watch????), and dyed my girlfriendā€™s armpit hair pink! Really good stuff all around. Hereā€™s what else I had going onā€¦

Reading

In line with my SATC rewatch, I read Sex and the City and Us: How Four Single Women Changed the Way We Think, Live, and Love, which is just a very fun/fascinating behind-the-scenes kind of book, with lots of things I didnā€™t know (and I know a decent amount because I owned Sex and the City: Kiss and Tell). This book was very, like, E! True Hollywood Story (and I mean that in a good way).

Also:

America Is Getting Unvaccinated People All Wrong, The Atlantic.

They Waited, They Worried, They Stalled. This Week, They Got the Shot., NYT. (gift link)

ā€˜Iā€™m sorry, but itā€™s too lateā€™: Alabama doctor on treating unvaccinated, dying COVID patients, AL.com.

Meet the Young Adults Sneaking Behind Their Parentsā€™ Backs to Get Vaccinated, Slate.

The Jessica Simulation: Love and loss in the age of A.I., San Francisco Chronicle.

ā€œIn 1934, My Life Snappedā€, Slate.
Really tragic story of how a conservatorship was abused 90 years ago.

The Board Games That Ask You to Reenact Colonialism, The Atlantic.

If You Really Want A Dog, You Can Get A Damn Dog, Defector.

Among Mormon Women, Frank Talk About Sacred Underclothes, NYT. (gift link)

Alex Cooper Takes All, Bustle.

Welcome to the Queerest Olympics Ever, VICE.

I Will Explain This New Olympic Sport To You: Skateboarding, Defector.

First gay wedding day in N.Y., CBS News.
10 years ago today!

ā€œFrog and Toadā€: An Amphibious Celebration of Same-Sex Love, The New Yorker.

Have a good week! šŸ„‡

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Just Good Shit: 07.18.21

Cherry and mango ice in a plastic cup on top of a blue and white striped beach towel, sitting on sand

Hi! Another late one; this was a nice full weekend with a spontaneous beach trip, rooftop friend hang, and mah jongg tutorial from Terri. Hereā€™s what else I had going on this weekā€¦

My shit

Reading

Flooding in Europe, in Pictures, NYT.

How Life Looks Through My ā€˜Whale Eyesā€™, NYT.

The Ethics of a Deepfake Anthony Bourdain Voice, The New Yorker.

How to Gracefully Turn Down Plans You Canā€™t Afford, The Cut.

Grossy's Guide to Being a Vacation House Mom, Grossy Pelosi.
I bought the smiley spoons and the juicer from this, and both are great. (The juicer works astonishingly well compared to our old one.)

How Coffin Flopā€™s Coffins Got Flopped, Vulture.

Iā€™ve also been reading the OG Candace Bushnell Sex and the City essay book from 1996, because my girlfriend and I have been watching the HBO series. (Sheā€™s never seen it; I have, but I remember very little outside of Season 4, which I owned on DVD in college.) Weā€™re currently in Season 3, and itā€™s all justā€¦bleak! The book is similarly bleak. The writing is 25+ years old, so it makes sense that it feels really dated, but I was reading it at Riis yesterday and had this moment of, like, I canā€™t believe Iā€™m reading this flatly homophobic text on the gay beach!!! Anyway, watching SATC, itā€™s helpful to me to remember that Candace Bushnell ran in the same circles as some of the women on Real Housewives of New York, and when you view them (and all these men) as part of the same universe, things start to make a lot more sense. Also, John Slattery as the piss politician was great and itā€™s so fucking funny that Carrie was so weird and dramatic about it!!!!!!!!

Have a good one! šŸŒƒ

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Good summer hostess gifts (or, a mid-year just-because mini gift guide)

Photo description: A blue and white striped beach towel on top of artificial grass. On top of the towel is a pack of Dad Grass, a red disposable LeBox camera, and the game The Bears and the Bees.

Now that people in the U.S. are getting vaccinated and starting to see friends again, whether at dinner parties or for long weekends, I thought it might be a good time to share some nice little host/ess gifts to bring along for the ride.

To me, the best host gifts have an element of whimsy or play ā€” i.e., they are things that people wouldnā€™t necessarily buy for themselves (though you can/should buy these things for yourself), but will be delighted to have in their home. Below are some of my current favorite options, most of which are under $20.

Edible gifts

Pickles + a pickle fork.

I mentioned this elsewhere recently, but Iā€™ve found that pickles make a great last-minute/unexpected addition to a buffet or snack spread, and a really good last-minute thing to bring to a party. I personally love the Claussen kosher dill pickles you can only find in the refrigerated section at grocery stores, but thereā€™s also no shortage of fancy artisanal pickles on the market right now. In any case, this is one of the more casual items on the list, which is why the dedicated pickle fork is a nice addition. You could go with a classic silver ($9.45 for a set of two on Amazon) or one that can be strapped right on to the pickle jar ($8.99 on Amazon), which makes for an especially nice gift presentation. If you wanted to lean into the barbecue theme, you could do a pickle fork + dedicated potato chip tongs ($9.87 on Amazon) + a 12-pack of red plastic burger baskets ($10.97 on Amazon).

Triple cream brie + cheese vault.

Are you sensing a theme here? To me, food item + non-perishable food related gift is a golden combination! In this case, I was planning on just recommending the brie alone, but then I stumbled on this cheese vault ($34 from Food52), and, well, it felt like fate! Back to the brie for a second though: I first learned of it from my friend Emily Fleishaker, an excellent cook and host, who also happens to work for NYT Cooking. She served it to me once and I was immediately sold. Cheese shops should have at least one triple cream brie, as will Whole Foods, and itā€™s just so good and is genuinely gift-worthy. If you didnā€™t want to pair it with the cheese vault, some hot honey would also be nice.

Luxardo cherries.

Hereā€™s how much I love these cherries: several years ago, I spent $99 on a 6-pound can of them, because that was the only way you could get them. Now, luckily, theyā€™ve become a bit more mainstream, and you can get a jar that would fit on most bar carts for $24.99 on Amazon. I think the cherries stand alone quite well, but if you wanted to add a little something, search ā€œvintage cocktail picksā€ on Etsy and find a set that matches your hostā€™s interests/aesthetic.

Non-edible gifts

A little game you play with cards.

Iā€™m very into little games you play with cards (as in, games you play with a unique deck and just that deck) right now, in part because they are easy to store and to bring along to a picnic or a house party or beach trip. Some options: The Bears and the Bees ($14.99 but currently on sale for $8.99), Sushi Go ($7.39), Strawberry Sunset ($12.95), and Anomia ($15.50) (+ review here). (Also, all of these aside from Anomia just require two players, which is nice!)

A good disposable camera.

Disposable cameras are a fun little treat that have been having a moment lately. I recently bought a bunch of LeBox 400 cameras for summer fun ā€” apparently they take really good photos in general, but especially in very bright sunlight, which is ideal for the beach. (They also have a flash, so you can use them basically wherever.) Get one on Amazon for $15.79.

Some Dad Grass.

This is more of a gift you bring to share, imo, but you could also bring an extra pack to leave with your host at the end of the trip if they like it. Itā€™s super mellow and not scary, which is exactly what Iā€™m in the mood for these days. Get a pack of five joints from Dad Grass for $35. (BTW if you use this link, weā€™ll both get $10 off.) ā˜€ļø

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Just Good Shit: 07.11.21

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hello and happy July! I took last weekend off because my family was visiting and it was a holiday. Hereā€™s what else Iā€™ve got for you this weekā€¦

My shit

And the latest ep of Oh, I Like That, ā€œQueer Faves Grab Bag,ā€ is live! (But FYI there will not be a new episode this upcoming week.)

Reading

I read Plain Bad Heroines on my Kindle and loved it so much that I immediately bought the hardcover version and am now re-reading it ā€” thatā€™s how much I enjoyed it! I also finished Something to Talk About, and now Iā€™m reading We Are the Baby-Sitters Club: Essays and Artwork from Grown-Up Readers.

Also:

The Horror of Surfside, Slate.

Donald Rumsfeld, Killer of 400,000 People, Dies Peacefully, The Daily Beast.

How Twitter can ruin a life, Vox.

The Police Called It An Accident. She Turned to 1-800-Autopsy., NYT.

When Implicit Bias Training Antagonizes the Workers Itā€™s Supposed to Help, VICE.

Where Jobless Benefits Were Cut, Jobs Are Still Hard to Fill, NYT.

ā€˜I was drowning insideā€™: How the sports world failed when 3 Black women needed help, The 19th.

Is There a Right Way to Act Blind?, NYT Magazine.

How Vlogging Is Empowering a New Generation of Stutterers, Catapult.

Can I Sit Here? | Let's Chat About Seating for Fat Folks, Marielle Elizabeth.

What happens when we die, Sick Note.

This Mothā€™s Name Is a Slur. Scientists Wonā€™t Use It Anymore., NYT.

The Subversive Joy of Lil Nas Xā€™s Gay Pop Stardom, NYT.

The Lesbian Strippers Changing the Game of Male Exotic Dancing, Slate.

Note: All NYT links are ā€œgift links,ā€ which means they will not count against your 10-articles-a-month total.

Watching

I Think You Should Leave, the first episode of which had me fully crying laughing. The Coney Island episode of Defunctland, which was great, especially because we watched it right before going to Coney Island. And 9 to 5, which Iā€™ve somehow never seen before and isā€¦ not a movie about unionizing (at least not in the traditional sense), as Iā€™d always assumed!!!

Have a good one! šŸ¦

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Tomatoes!

Iā€™ve had tomatoes on my mind since a friend shared this New Yorker cartoon that has the caption, ā€œSummerā€™s here. Do you want to start talking incessantly about tomatoes or corn?ā€

While I donā€™t truly love tomatoes like some people do, I realized thereā€™s a handful of tomato-centric recipes that I really like, and that I figured are worth re-upping as tomato season approaches!

First, thereā€™s this Claire Lower/Lifehacker post that is nothing short of life-changing: Marinate Your Tomatoes for Extra Flavorful BLTs. I canā€™t say with 100% confidence that this will make even tomato-haters like tomatoes, but I do think if youā€™re not, like, actively repulsed by tomatoes, this marinade might be enough to get you to a place of real enjoyment. I made a batch of these last night and even though the tomatoes I got arenā€™t even that good, they were still great! (Iā€™m extra thrilled because I just bought a bottle of the much-loved Kewpie mayo, making these BLTs even more special.)


Next, up: Nora Ephronā€™s tomato sauce, via Kelsey Miller/A Cup of Jo. After I read this for the first time, I went on a farmers market trek to find the perfect tomatoes, and when I finally secured them and made the recipe, it did not disappoint. Iā€™m looking forward to making this one in Augustā€¦itā€™s not time just yet.


Moving on to cherry tomatoesā€¦I love the roasted tomato, feta, and chickpea mix in this recipe.

Finally, if you canā€™t choose between tomatoes or corn, I humbly suggest NYT Cookingā€™s summer shrimp scampi with tomatoes and corn. We use canned corn for this, and have made it without the shrimp on several occasions, and always get great results. šŸ…

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Just Good Shit: 06.27.21

Image: A woman wears a white ā€œPromote Homosexualityā€ T-shirt and black Leviā€™s dad jeans and holds an iridescent fan

It was another great week! I love being vaccinated!! We managed to get super last-minute tickets to NightGowns, Sasha Velourā€™s fantastic drag show; went to Drag n Drive; hung out with friends on our rooftop; visited a newish very cute/gay grocery store; went to the gay beach; made new friends; saw old friendsā€¦really just 10s across the board!

That said, the cops are literally pepper spraying and arresting people celebrating Pride in Washington Square Park as I write this (!!!!), soā€¦thereā€™s still a long way to go in this fight.

Hereā€™s what else I had going onā€¦

Reading

I finished another Ann Bannon novel (which I didnā€™t love as much as Beebo) and am now reading the rom-com Something to Talk About.

Also:

Rachel Lindsay Has No Roses Left to Burn, NY Mag.

Airbnb Is Spending Millions of Dollars to Make Nightmares Go Away, Bloomberg.
TBH, I was kind of already out on Airbnb, at least for traveling alone with my gf, after our last few trips, when I felt very freaked out and vulnerable, and this article made me feel like thatā€™s probably the right move.

The mRNA Vaccines Are Extraordinary, but Novavax Is Even Better, The Atlantic.

How to Organize Your Fridge, Wirecutter.

ā€˜I Donā€™t Drink, But My Friends Still Want to Split the Bill!ā€™, The Cut.

Drag March Kicks Off Pride Weekend In Spectacular Style, Gothamist.

ā€˜We Really Don't Have Time to Wasteā€™ ā€” Coming Out in a Pandemic, NYT.

19 Unforgettable Ways to Make Up for Lost Time With Friends This Summer, VICE.

A few other recs from this weekā€¦

Wig, a documentary about NYC drag on HBO.

NYT Cookingā€™s Creamy Chive Pasta With Lemon recipe ā€”remarkably simple/fast to make, and really delicious.

A bunch of mesh pouches + a pack of carabiners, which gave me the beach bag organization Iā€™ve been craving.

Queer Crosswords, which is great, and also has a comprehensive list of LGBTQ charities worth your time and money, if youā€™re looking for a nice way to honor Pride before June ends.

Have a nice night! šŸ§ššŸ½ā€ā™€ļø

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Just Good Shit: 06.20.21

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

It was another good week around here! Our morning glories are growing at a borderline-alarming speed; we met up with friends at Riis yesterday; we had new friends over on Thursday night and had so much fun; and I did a massive organization project today that Iā€™m so happy about. We also voted (early ā€” the primaries are Tuesday in NYC), which is always a pleasure. And a box of the best peaches Iā€™ve ever tasted arrives this week!

Hereā€™s what else I had going onā€¦

My shit

Reading

Iā€™m currently reading I Am a Woman by Ann Bannon, and really enjoying it! Also:

The Road to Terfdom, Lux Magazine.

Living Nonbinary in a Binary Sports World, Sports Illustrated.

Do You Want to Be Sad, or Skinny? The Slippery Solution of Wellbutrin, VICE.
(Just a headā€™s up that this article centers on eating disorders.)

ā€˜A Family Like Oursā€™: Portraits of Gay Fatherhood, NYT.

The Housewife and the Hustler Is a Necessary Yet Flawed Portrait of Erika Jayne, Tom Girardi, & American Greed, Jezebel.

Let's Talk About In the Heights and the Erasure of Dark-Skinned Afro-Latinx Folks, The Root.

The #gaycopsoftiktok are barely even trying, All Cops Are Posters.

The improbable true story of Judge Judy and the reporter who made her a star, LA Times.

Casey McQuiston Will Remind You What It Feels Like to Be Alive, The Cut.

#1338: ā€œ*surprised Pikachu face* Another friendship that stresses me out!ā€, Captain Awkward.
ā€œLife is too short for this NiceGirlā„¢ shit where seeming polite is more important than being honest, kind, or happy.ā€

Watching

Explant, a really interesting documentary about the history of breast implants and the thousands of women who say theirs are making them sick. The aforementioned The Housewife and the Hustler. But Iā€™m a Cheerleader, a classic. And Luca, the new Pixar movie.

Have a good evening! ā˜€ļø

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Just Good Shit: 06.13.21

Two people sitting at a march for Black Trans Lives in Brooklyn holding signs that say ā€œNone of us are free until ALL of us are freeā€ and ā€œProtect Trans Kids/ā€
Two protest signs: One says ā€œProtect Trans Youthā€ and the other says ā€œStop policing kidsā€™ genitals, you weirdos.ā€

Whew, what a weekend! Yesterday I spent the day at Good Judy, a newish (and, now, vaxxed-only) queer bar in Park Slope. They closed the block down and had a bunch of amazing drag performances throughout the day. The vibe was just so good ā€” mellow, communal, welcoming, fun. The DJ was playing banger after banger; when he put on ā€œAll I Want for Christmas Is You,ā€ we all absolutely lost it.

Today I spent the day at the March for Black Trans Lives, an incredibly moving (and impressively well-organized) event that started with a rally at the Brooklyn Museum and ended in Ft. Greene Park. It centered on trans youth and trans liberation, and featured several young speakers, all of whom were incredible. (I recommend checking out all of the speeches; you can see two of my favorites here and here. NYT also covered it, and there are lots of great photos.) Coming together in solidarity and community, taking to the streets, chanting in unison, protecting each other, and making time to celebrate the fact that weā€™re still hereā€¦ itā€™s just kind of the whole thing, you know?

Hereā€™s what else I had going on this weekā€¦

Reading

This week, I read The Killer Wore Leather, a very funny murder mystery that I discovered via this list of queer beach reads that I edited recently!

And a couple other articles worth your time:

The New York Timesā€™ Culture-War Definition of Free Speech, The New Republic.

I Asked My Rapist For $10,000, Lux.

Two Black Students Won School Honors. Then Came the Calls for a Recount., NYT.

Iā€™m using NYTā€™s new ā€œgift articlesā€ feature to share the NYT links in this post; basically, subscribers can now share 10 articles per month, and if you use a ā€œgiftā€ link like the ones above, it wonā€™t count toward your free article total.

Have a good night! āœŠšŸ½

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Just Good Shit: 06.06.21

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hiiiii! Tonightā€™s edition is a little late because I spent most of the day lying tits-up on the gay beach reading Beebo Brinker ā€” truly an ideal way to spend a 90 degree Sunday at the beginning of June!! Hereā€™s what else I had going on this weekā€¦

Writing

And thereā€™s a new ep of Oh, I Like That: Homosexual Tendencies (Letā€™s Talk About Pride!).

Itā€™s time for me to re-up these

Reading

Along with Beebo, I read Casey McQuistonā€™s new novel, One Last Stop, which is great. Andā€¦I didnā€™t read much else actually, because it was a short week and I was writing/editing a bunch. Also itā€™s hard to read when youā€™re playing ā€œLove Againā€ on repeat!

Have a good night! šŸŒ”

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Just Good Shit: 05.30.21

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hi, friends! Hereā€™s what I was up to this weekā€¦

Reading

What the Tulsa Race Massacre Destroyed, NYT.

A Day With New Yorkā€™s Bird Paramedics, Curbed.

Iā€™m a Vaccinated Transplant Recipient. I Donā€™t Have Antibodies. Now What?, NYT.

The man who didnā€™t invent Flaminā€™ Hot Cheetos, L.A. Times.

Cruella Is the Girl-Bossification of the Madwoman, Vulture.
OK, we decided to watch this out of morbid curiosity/boredom (itā€™s been pouring non-stop for three days) and had low expectationsā€¦and yet were still shocked by just how bad it was! Totally joyless, incredibly obnoxious, with too many plot holes to count, and it just, likeā€¦ does not connect to the 101 Dalmatians villain/story at all. So weird!

Cruella shows that Disney is still struggling to get its ā€œfirst gay characterā€ right, A.V. Club.

If Cruellaā€™s Ending Left You Confused, Youā€™re Not Alone, Slate.

She Put Her Unspent Love in a Cardboard Box, NYT.

Bowen Yang Is Changing the Late-Night Comedy Landscape, Slate.

How to help coworkers who have been in the office all along, Ask a Manager.

Have a good night! šŸŒ„

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Just Good Shit: 05.23.21

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Image: Kiyana Salkeld / Just Good Shit

Hello! Hereā€™s what I had going on this weekā€¦

Writing

And Sally and I answered some listener questions about friendship on the podcast!

Reading

What Happens When Americans Can Finally Exhale, The Atlantic.

Covid Killed His Father. Then Came $1 Million in Medical Bills., NYT.

My Grandfather Bought a Home in Gaza With His Savings. An Israeli Airstrike Destroyed It., NYT.

Chipotle Is a Criminal Enterprise Built on Exploitation, Jacobin.

Billy Porter Breaks a 14-Year Silence: ā€œThis Is What HIV-Positive Looks Like Nowā€, The Hollywood Reporter.

Sorry, Bella Poarch, this IS ā€˜Build a B*tchā€™, The Kids Arenā€™t Alright.

It Is Unconscionable That The Gay Community Has Ostracized Me Simply Because I Was Born A Cop, Defector.

Eating

This weekend, I got motivated to deal with the ongoing problem of lunch, and Iā€™m returning to sauce theory. Iā€™m doing perfect chicken + roasted vegetables + ready rice, and then I whipped up two sauces from Simply Julia. I already feel so much better about the fact that tomorrow is Monday.

Have a good evening! šŸŒ‡

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Just Good Shit: 05.16.21

This week, I celebrated the first anniversary of The Art of Showing Up! My girlfriend got me an amazing (and delicious) cake to celebrate. We also had two (!!) friend hangouts this weekend and watched Showgirls, a movie viewing experience that Iā€¦frankly was not prepared for. At one point, we paused, in a state of awe and confusion, to discuss what we had just seen, and she pointed out we were *not even seven minutes into the movie*. Itā€™s nonsensical, baffling, and so shockingly bad, and I kind of already want to watch it again? (Instead weā€™re watching You Donā€™t Nomi, the documentary that seeks to figure out why Showgirlsā€¦is this way.)

Hereā€™s what else I had going on this week.

Reading

Sara Yasin, my former coworker, is a good follow for news/insight on what is happening in Israel and Palestine right now. And Democracy Now and US Campaign for Palestinian Rights are two good resources (h/t Sally).

Also:

5 People Describe the Emotional and Financial Tolls of House Arrest, VICE.

Texas Is About to Pass a Radical Anti-Abortion Bill and It Should Scare You, Jezebel.

Why We Speak More Weirdly at Home, The Atlantic.

Called by God, Slate.

How To Affirm the People in Your Life Who Use Multiple Sets of Pronouns, them.

And Iā€™ve been reading a galley of The Housewives and really loving it!

Have a good one! šŸŒ·

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